Affair Recovery & Infidelity Counseling
When an affair has turned your relationship upside down, you don't have to know yet whether you're staying together. Therapy can help you slow things down, understand what happened, and figure out what comes next.
How Counseling Can Help After Infidelity
While the impact of an affair can be deeply traumatic, it doesn’t have to signal the end of your relationship. Many couples do recover from infidelity and find a way forward together. Affairs happen for many different reasons, and understanding what happened is an important part of recovery—but understanding is not the same as excusing. Therapy can help you make sense of what happened, address the impact of the betrayal, and begin conversations about what each of you needs moving forward.
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFT), I specialize in working with people experiencing infidelity and other relationship betrayals. I use EFT to help couples address the injury to their relationship, understand what happened between them, and determine how they want to move forward.
Is Infidelity Counseling Right for Us?
Affair and infidelity counseling can help if you're experiencing:
Recent discovery of an affair or infidelity
A past affair that you can't seem to get over
Emotional affairs or online infidelity
Multiple affairs or ongoing infidelity
Uncertainty about whether to stay together or separate
Difficulty rebuilding trust after betrayal
Intense anger, grief, or confusion after discovering an affair
Navigating guilt, shame, or uncertainty after having an affair
Trying to heal individually while navigating the relationship
Questions about why the affair happened
Fear that it will happen again
Trying to recommit to your relationship after infidelity
A place for both of you
I understand that both the hurt partner (the partner who discovered the affair) and the involved partner (the partner who had the affair) may be hurting and overwhelmed in different ways. I approach this work with empathy for both partners, without shaming and without losing sight of accountability. Together, we'll make sense of what happened, explore the patterns of connection and disconnection in your relationship, address the impact of the affair, and help you determine which path forward is right for you. I reserve a limited number of appointments for couples facing infidelity or other significant relationship challenges and would like support quickly. Availability varies. Contact Lisa to discuss.
What to Expect in Infidelity Counseling
Whether the affair just happened or occurred in the past, it's never too early or too late to begin healing. In our sessions, you can expect:
If you're the hurt partner:
Space to process the shock, hurt, and roller coaster of emotions
Support through anger, grief, confusion, and the desire for both comfort and distance
Help understanding what happened and what it means for your relationship
If you’re the involved partner:
Space to work through shame, confusion, and overwhelming feelings
Support in understanding what led to the affair and what you need to take responsibility for
Guidance in showing up for your partner's pain while processing your own
Together, we'll work on:
Having difficult but necessary conversations
Rebuilding trust and safety
Understanding the relationship you had before the affair and what each of you needs moving forward
Deciding whether to reconnect, separate gracefully, or heal individually
Not sure what to do in the aftermath of an affair?
The first days and weeks after discovering infidelity can feel overwhelming. Read my guide to what can help—and what to avoid—when you're trying to figure out what comes next.
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Couples Counseling & Therapy
Reconnect with your partner through no-shame, no-blame therapy that helps you break negative cycles and build the close, lasting relationship you long for.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
An evidence-based approach that helps you understand the emotional patterns driving conflict and create secure, lasting connections with those you love.
Start With a Free Consultation
One of the most important factors in the success of counseling is the relationship you have with your therapist. That's why I offer a no-cost, 20-minute phone consultation so you can get a sense of me and how it might feel to work together.